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It’s time to be a true parent

September 16, 2012
The Herald-Star

To the editor:

For almost a month now I have seen grown adults act like children, fighting over whose town or team is better. When did we, as adults, lower ourselves to grade school mentality? When did sports become more important than good values?

This is truly an indignity, and to oneself as well. What is happening to our society? No one can tell me that those boys don't know right from wrong. It would have taken one young person to step forward and tell everyone that this was wrong, to stop it, that it was going too far. Instead everyone who was present and observed and witnessed what was happening cowered and didn't have the decency to try and stop it. It would have taken one person to voice an opposition to change the course of events, just one person with the strength of decency to step forward and stop this brutal attack on a helpless girl.

What does that say about our young people?

We can talk about valor, sportsmanship and pride and any and all adjectives that describe or define an outstanding individual on a football field, but that single moment when it really counted made every onlooker a spineless hypocrite, a daughter or son that should shock any parent and deeply question what's wrong.

Every observer present can't be called anything less than a coward unless they step forward and prove otherwise to themselves. And worse possibly, if their parents are encouraging them to stay silent about any information they know.

Parents, do you know where your child was that night? How many parents of every child who was present at that moment questioned their child about what they saw or what happened?

How many parents of those who were present are demanding their child do what is right? These moments bear real life lessons that an individual will take throughout their lifetime that build true character, self-integrity, self-esteem, personal strength and worth.

How many parents care or are able to see or understand the true ramifications that will fester deep into their son's or daughter's memories about what happened that night? How will their child recount their own parents' behavior when regrets begin to surface? Close their eyes and wish it will go away? No, it doesn't truly work that way - there will be inner ramifications, regrets from their silence.

The point is, how many parents demand they step forward and do what is right? If these parents can't understand that this memory carries ramifications for their son or daughter in the future, they're missing the big picture. There will be a consequence, a consequence that will live within their memory that will haunt them to know they did nothing, nothing to assist an individual who was brutalized by their peers. What an interesting lesson to learn about oneself in one's lifetime.

The memory will surface from time to time. To any parent whose child was present in that attack, it's time to be a true parent.

Diane Matics


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